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On Change and Changing Our Minds

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Change is the only constant…

The more things change, the more they stay the same…

Ch-ch-changes…

In the dawn of our species, human survival depended on being hyper-aware of and sensitive to potential danger, in order to survive and have surviving offspring. Over time, vigilance repeatedly proved to be an asset, and our brains became hardwired to be biased toward,

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What Conversation Are You Avoiding?

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As we have mentioned in various earlier posts, there is a positive correlation between the quality of our conversations and our leadership capacity, richness of life, and even the viability of our professional careers.

This has been explored thoroughly in a host of books, including Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results by Judith E. Glaser; Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B.

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For Best Results, Don’t Trigger the Subordinates

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In this blog, we’ve talked at length about skillfully handling our own emotional responses when dealing with peers and superiors, but have you ever given thought to situations in which you might be triggering your subordinates?

There are times when leaning harder on subordinates does not necessarily result in getting unmet needs for competency, efficiency, reliability, collaboration, or clarity met. In fact, turning our frustration, anger, and disappointment toward them is patently counter-productive.

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A Lesson from the Snake and the Monk

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There once was a snake who terrorized a tiny village. Women, children, adored family pets—he would bite them all, without a moment’s contemplation or modicum of sensitivity.

One day, a monk visited the village. He observed the snake’s behavior and committed himself to teaching the snake the principle of non-violence. As it turns out, the snake had a penchant for self-improvement and thoroughly absorbed the monk’s teachings.

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Coding Managers Anonymous: Surrender Is the Hardest Part

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“Hello, I’m Bob, and I’m a coding addict. It’s been one month since my last line of code…”

Over years of coaching experience, we have discovered that when people are promoted—from technical/professional contributor to manager of technical/professional contributors, or from manager of technical/professional contributors to manager of managers—the newly-promoted often have a very difficult time surrendering the technical responsibilities they had as individual contributors. It’s a phenomenon we’ve observed with IT managers so many times,

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How to Tell Your Boss “Not Now”

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I have a vivid memory from early in my professional career—in the first year or two of corporate work—of standing in the hall talking to a supervisor I supported. The Vice President approached us, and said to the supervisor: “Tom, I need this report by first thing in the morning.”

I could tell by the VP’s tone that he was not asking Tom, he was telling him.

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Your Maps Need Updating

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This has been, by all anecdotal accounts, one heckuva flu season in Middle Tennessee. Most years, my household escapes the scourge of illness, but we were not so lucky this year.

It all started one Thursday afternoon, when I began to feel generally under the weather—chills, congestion, and just not feeling right. Friday morning I definitely wasn’t myself, and my temperature of 100.5 degrees confirmed I definitely had something;

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Modern Leadership: What Worked Then Doesn’t Work Now

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Perhaps the most fundamental misunderstanding about leadership we encounter daily is, leading is synonymously presented as the ability to control something—whether it’s money, people, process, or agenda. This notion perpetuates a complex of behaviors we call the Command and Control style of leadership.

Command and Control is a paramilitary model that has been around for centuries. It’s the idea that the person in charge calls the shots, and everyone underneath him follows orders without question.

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The Single Greatest Weakness in the Business World

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Ambiguity: (noun) the quality of being open to more than one interpretation; inexactness.

I coach students in a variety of graduate degree programs at Vanderbilt’s Owen Graduate School of Management. Most have already spent anywhere from a couple years to a couple decades in the workforce, so we use a well-regarded “360” assessment in which students ask their peers, boss, and subordinates to rate them on 38 different leadership,

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The Most Overworked Word in Today’s Business World

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During the past year, I’ve noticed that when I meet with a client and ask how they’re doing, the vast majority of the time their response is busy, really busy, very busy, got a lot going on, or something of the sort. Their accompanying tone often suggests to me that they perceive their level of activity is more than they want it to be, and that functioning at the level they are functioning should be the exception rather than the rule.

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